GIFT

Should I purchase bridal shower & bachorlette party gifts, then give to bride privately after wedding?

Received shower invitation 5 days before event & 9 days after RSVP due. Had plans to attend another event on this date made 3 months prior, so called & politely expressed regrets in not being able to attend.Was informed of bachlorette party 3 days before hand, day also was my youngest childs birthday & we already had plans made. When asked by bride-to-be if I was going to attend her party, I asked her when it was & when told the date, I asked if that meant she wouldn’t be attending birthday party. She had no clue because she was not told & I found out that bachelor party was same night & that both were planned after everyone had been verbally invited to childs birthday. I was called 3 days after both parties by my sister-in-law & was told that I was expected to give gifts despite not attending either function, that should have canceled prior plans to attend both functions. I get along w/my soon to be sister-in-law, & will purchase gifts regardless of in-laws demands. Is this right?

how RUDE of them to say you have to send a gift despite not being there!

they are at fault, they are waiting until the last minute to plan things and you being a normal human being, can not change at the drop of a hat.

people should be friends with people despite if they give gifts or not. no one should DEMAND gifts. omg the rudeness is preventing from me thinking correctly.

hopefully you know when the wedding is at this point, it is hard to tell with this bunch. i would NOT send a gift, you are not obligated to give one EVEN if you went, although it is customary. if someone did not attend my bridal shower, i would not expect a gift from them.

give a gift because YOU are a nice and generous person, not because these other people are greedy and very tacky. i hope things go well from now on.

The Mc-Bride’s Bachelorette Party